Friday's weekly Quote

What is discipline ?

Discipline is a common element in BDSM play 

and is even sometimes represented by the letter "D" in this acronym. 

Discipline refers to the practice of training a submissive to obey a Dominant 

and to follow certain rules. 

It is most common during submissive or slave training, 

but discipline is also present in all aspects of the relationship 

between a Dominant and a submissive. 

Although punishment can go hand in hand with discipline, 

it typically focuses more on helping a submissive to learn 

what is expected of them 

and how to act accordingly. 

For instance, 

if a submissive makes an honest mistake, 

it is the Dominant's responsibility to discipline her/him 

 by showing her/him the proper way to do something. 

Punishment usually occurs only when a submissive willfully breaks a rule.
It is important to note that those in the BDSM community 

view the ability to submit 

as a source of empowerment for the submissive.

 Although punishment often goes hand in hand with discipline, 

it is not the only aspect of it. 

For example, 

when a submissive does something 

in such a way that it does not please a Dominant, 

the submissive will usually need to be disciplined. 

This usually involves the Dominant explaining what He or She disliked 

as well as teaching the submissive how to do it properly. 

In some cases, a punishment may also be used 

to help a submissive learn a particular lesson better. 

However, the punishment should always be related to the infraction. 

For example, 

a proper punishment for speaking out of turn 

 may be forbidding speaking or enforcing silence 

with a gag for a certain amount of time. 

(kinkly.com)

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Tuesday's weekly task

Research from the E - e - List

Electrical Play

Electrical play is any type of BDSM play (sexual or non-sexual) 

where electricity is used on the body to create different sensations. 

The most common electrical toys are neon /violet wands and TENS units. 

Both neon wands and violet wands use static electricity to create 

a "shocking" feeling on the skin. 

TENS units work off of the electricity within our bodies 

to cause involuntary muscular contractions.

 This type of play is fairly common among BDSM players,

 as it can be incredibly versatile and used in a variety of scenes. 

Electrical play is often easy to learn, and is permitted at most public BDSM parties, 

even those with stricter play guidelines. 

Enjoyed by beginners and seasoned players alike, 

electrical toys have a great range in intensity, 

from very light and sensual to heavy and painful. 

At its lowest setting, many compare the violet wand 

to the feeling of warm champagne on the skin. 

Lower settings on the TENS unit create a deeper muscular throbbing feeling, 

which can be experienced by some as tingling, 

prickling, vibrating, or buzzing. 

Electrical play is fairly safe over all, 

but it is important to keep electrical toys away from the heart, 

and they should never be used on people with pacemakers 

or other medical implants, 

or on people who are pregnant 

or who have any type of heart condition.

(kinkly.com) 

i heard a lot about the violet wand,
so i'm curious and would surely  like to try that one
and the neon wand too

i'm not sure about the TENS unit

difference between a submissive and a slave

A submissive retains the power over themselves and their body.

A slave has one option for the most point. Obey or leave!

Does a slave have the options of telling Master “no”??  

-  Not if they want to continue to stay with Him.

A submissive is someone who negotiates; a slave does not.

A submissive has limits; 

a slave has given up all limits except those which her owner sets for her.

A submissive obeys and serves by choosing to do so each time and retains her will. 

A slave initially makes a choice to obey her Master at all times and then submits 

to the will of her Master at all times.

A submissive accepts submission, 

while a slave accepts obedience.

A submissive has retained some rights within the context of the D/s relationship, 

whereas a slave has given up all rights and becomes, in effect, property.

A slave is not allowed to sit on furniture or wear clothes, 

and always kneels at her owner’s feet.

A submissive has a safe-word to end play, 

while a slave has consented to no-consent.

A slave must be a submissive, 

but a submissive is not necessarily a slave.

Being a submissive is just a step on the way to the “ultimate” state of submission, 

which is being a slave.

 (submissive / slave : kinkly, com)

 A submissive is a sexual participant who willingly gives up either some or all control 

to a Dominant partner.

 This type of partnership is often referred as a dominant/submissive (D/s) partnership. 

A submissive might also be called a "bottom" 

while the dominant partner might be called a "top".

 There are varying degrees of D/s relationships. 

Some men and women only play at being submissive during certain times, 

such as during sex or when in a BDSM club. 

Others may live as full-time submissive and relinquishes control to their Dominants 

in all aspects of their lives.

 A slave is an individual who relinquishes all of his or her power to a Dominant partner

in a BDSM total power exchange relationship. 

Generally, slaves are considered to be the property of their owners in the BDSM community and not as people. 

They must be subservient to their partners, 

ask permission before they do anything, and be available for sexual activities

 whenever it is requested. 

In addition, slaves are often subject to punishment

 if they deviate from their duties.

 The decision to become a slave is not one that should be taken lightly. 

It often involves completely giving up control of every aspect of your life

 including when you can use the bathroom. 

Some slaves may even enter into master/slave contract. 

While these aren't usually legally binding,

 slaves or masters who break these contracts are usually frowned upon by

 other members of the BDSM community unless there is a good reason. 

Before committing to a master/slave relationship,

be sure to take some time to decide if giving up complete control of your life 

to another is what you want. 

If not, you may simply be a submissive which generally 

does not require a total power exchange.

Would i ever want to be a slave ?

i haven't think about by now seriously as i'm new

to the lifestyle

i don't know if i would be able to give up

all control, in every aspect of my life

fear of getting taken advantage and being abused

would have need to be torn down to a minimum first

i must trust that person with my life

i must love that person

i found something on kinkly.com 

and think that would be the only way / type of slave

i would be able and willing to agree on

- if at all

love slave

 A love slave is a submissive participant in a BDSM relationship. 

Driven by love, a love slave will go to great lengths to receive the affection 

of the Dominant.

Love slaves put the interests of their Dominant partner first 

even if it is inconvenient. 

Their only goal is to make their Dominant happy.

 In return, Dominants will lavish their slaves with affection.

A love slave acts obediently and submits to the 

will of his or her Dominant partner. 

This may include completing acts of service, 

wearing outfits of the Dominant’s choosing, 

and engaging in sexual acts as requested. 

While the term love slave might seem degrading

 to people outside the BDSM community, 

love slaves insist that their role is not 

humiliating or demeaning in any way.

Some people confuse the term love slave for sex slave, 

although most members of the BDSM community note a clear distinction. 

 

 

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