my submissive journey

feeling down and sad...

i can relate / identify with that 

found at BDSM Unveiled... what type of submissive you are?

 http://www.bdsmunveiled.com/2013/04/what-type-of-submissive-are-you.html

my little tendencies....

i hope 

my future Dominant will accept them...

Tuesday's weekly task

Research from the F - f - List

Fire Play

In the BDSM community, 

fire play is a type of sexual play that involves fire 

near or directly on a person's skin. 
 

This can be done by placing candles 

or other flames near a person's skin, 

wiping alcohol on the skin and lighting it, 

tapping the skin with a lit torch, 

or flogging a person with a flaming whip or flogger.
 

        A fire whip is designed to be soaked in a flammable accelerant 

and ignited prior to use. 

        A Dominant then uses the blazing fire whip to 

strike His / Her submissive.
 

 For obvious reasons, 

fire play is generally considered to be a type of 

 edge play. 

When engaging in fire play, 

safety should come first and certain precautions 

should be taken. 
 

For instance, 

fire and flames should not be placed 

close to clothing or hair. 

Safewords should be established, 

and supplies and equipment 

like fire blankets, wet towels, 

 and fire extinguishers 

should be kept close at hand. 
 

 A fire whip may be a singletail or flogger style whip, 

with multiple lashes. 

Fire whips are typically made from Kevlar, 

as this material is tough enough 

to withstand being set on fire 

time and time again. 
 

Fire whips must be soaked 

in a flammable accelerant, 

such as lighter fluid and alcohol, 

for easy ignition and to stay alight. 

The longer you soak the flogger, 

the longer it will stay lit. 
 

The whip must also be kept in motion 

during use to ensure 

the flames don’t go out.

As with all fire play, 

using a fire whip is very dangerous. 
 

Using any kind of whip also carries 

some degree of risk. 

For these reasons, 

inexperienced Dominants should not attempt 

to use a fire whip. 
 

Dominants should avoid areas 

where fire could do serious damage, 

like the face and genitals, 

and instead focus on the back or chest. 
 

The Dominant must strike the submissive 

for only a short period of time 

to avoid burning the skin, 

with the tails making contact with flesh 

rather than the body of the whip. 
 

Swinging the fire whip around in the air 

before bringing it down on the skin 

can also reduce the risk of burns. 

It can also help to “warm up” the 

submissive’s body 

with fire wands or other 

less dangerous fire toys first. 
 

No matter how skilled the Dominant is

 with a fire whip, 

the hairs on the submissive’s skin will become singed. 

(kinkly.com)

my submissive plant(s)

 

They all grow so nicely  :))

Friday's weekly Quote

What is discipline ?

Discipline is a common element in BDSM play 

and is even sometimes represented by the letter "D" in this acronym. 

Discipline refers to the practice of training a submissive to obey a Dominant 

and to follow certain rules. 

It is most common during submissive or slave training, 

but discipline is also present in all aspects of the relationship 

between a Dominant and a submissive. 

Although punishment can go hand in hand with discipline, 

it typically focuses more on helping a submissive to learn 

what is expected of them 

and how to act accordingly. 

For instance, 

if a submissive makes an honest mistake, 

it is the Dominant's responsibility to discipline her/him 

 by showing her/him the proper way to do something. 

Punishment usually occurs only when a submissive willfully breaks a rule.
It is important to note that those in the BDSM community 

view the ability to submit 

as a source of empowerment for the submissive.

 Although punishment often goes hand in hand with discipline, 

it is not the only aspect of it. 

For example, 

when a submissive does something 

in such a way that it does not please a Dominant, 

the submissive will usually need to be disciplined. 

This usually involves the Dominant explaining what He or She disliked 

as well as teaching the submissive how to do it properly. 

In some cases, a punishment may also be used 

to help a submissive learn a particular lesson better. 

However, the punishment should always be related to the infraction. 

For example, 

a proper punishment for speaking out of turn 

 may be forbidding speaking or enforcing silence 

with a gag for a certain amount of time. 

(kinkly.com)

my submissive journey

there are different ways to give a spanking...

different positions to receive a spanking...

different instruments to give a spanking... 

 

Tuesday's weekly task

Research from the E - e - List

Electrical Play

Electrical play is any type of BDSM play (sexual or non-sexual) 

where electricity is used on the body to create different sensations. 

The most common electrical toys are neon /violet wands and TENS units. 

Both neon wands and violet wands use static electricity to create 

a "shocking" feeling on the skin. 

TENS units work off of the electricity within our bodies 

to cause involuntary muscular contractions.

 This type of play is fairly common among BDSM players,

 as it can be incredibly versatile and used in a variety of scenes. 

Electrical play is often easy to learn, and is permitted at most public BDSM parties, 

even those with stricter play guidelines. 

Enjoyed by beginners and seasoned players alike, 

electrical toys have a great range in intensity, 

from very light and sensual to heavy and painful. 

At its lowest setting, many compare the violet wand 

to the feeling of warm champagne on the skin. 

Lower settings on the TENS unit create a deeper muscular throbbing feeling, 

which can be experienced by some as tingling, 

prickling, vibrating, or buzzing. 

Electrical play is fairly safe over all, 

but it is important to keep electrical toys away from the heart, 

and they should never be used on people with pacemakers 

or other medical implants, 

or on people who are pregnant 

or who have any type of heart condition.

(kinkly.com) 

i heard a lot about the violet wand,
so i'm curious and would surely  like to try that one
and the neon wand too

i'm not sure about the TENS unit